The holidays bring opportunities to gather with loved ones, share meals, and create beautiful memories. But for families traveling with someone who has a disability, visiting homes that may not be accessibility-friendly can come with challenges. Through trial, error, and creativity, I’ve learned that preparation and open communication can make all the difference.
Here’s how we navigate the holidays while ensuring my mother, who uses a wheelchair, feels included and comfortable.
Step 1: Communicate with Your Host
Before heading out, it’s essential to talk with your host about your loved one’s needs. This has been key for us when visiting family members whose homes aren’t naturally accessible.
- Ask About Accessibility: Stairs, tight hallways, or small bathrooms can be obstacles. For instance, my mom struggles with even small bumps or uneven thresholds—things that are hardly noticeable to others but can feel like mountains in a wheelchair. After realizing this, we found a portable ramp on Amazon for a reasonable price. It’s been a game-changer for tackling minor challenges.
- Propose Temporary Solutions: One year, we stayed at a home with a small bathroom that couldn’t fit my mom’s wheelchair. After discussing it with the host, we used a tension rod and curtain in the hallway to create a temporary private space. It was simple, inexpensive, and worked perfectly.
Step 2: Pack Thoughtfully
Traveling with someone who has a disability means planning for both the expected and the unexpected.
- Mobility Aids: Along with her wheelchair, we always pack tools like portable ramps and non-slip mats.
- Emergency Supplies: Accidents happen, and it’s better to be prepared. We found a diaper bag backpack at Target that attaches neatly to the back of her wheelchair. It’s roomy enough for all her essentials and keeps everything organized and within easy reach.
- Comfort Items: My mom loves having familiar things with her, like her favorite pillow or tablet. These little touches make a big difference in unfamiliar spaces.
Step 3: Adapt the Space
Making small adjustments to the environment can make a world of difference.
- Remove Trip Hazards: Even something as simple as moving a rug can help my mom navigate more easily.
- Create Open Space: Rearranging furniture for wider paths ensures she doesn’t feel limited or confined.
- Bathroom Accessibility: As mentioned, we’ve used creative solutions like a curtain to provide privacy and make small spaces usable. These adaptations aren’t just practical—they show that the host is making an effort, which means a lot to us.
Step 4: Don’t Overthink It
While it’s essential to plan ahead, it’s equally important not to overthink every detail. Obsessing over every “what if” can stress you out, make the host feel overwhelmed, and inadvertently pressure your loved one. Remember: no one expects perfection, and simple solutions often work best.
For example, we didn’t anticipate the small bathroom issue until we arrived, but instead of panicking, we brainstormed and improvised with what we had. Keeping a flexible and calm mindset can turn potential obstacles into manageable situations.
Step 5: Prepare for the Unexpected
Despite our best planning, surprises happen. Having a plan for those moments makes them less stressful.
- Emergency Kit: We pack spare batteries for her wheelchair, a basic first-aid kit, and extra clothes in case of spills or accidents.
- Flexibility: If a space proves more challenging than expected, we’ve learned to adjust our plans and focus on making my mom as comfortable as possible.
Step 6: Advocate for Inclusion
Unfortunately, not everyone intuitively knows how to make someone with a disability feel included. This has been an ongoing learning curve for us.
- Encourage Interaction: We gently remind family members to speak directly to my mom, not just to me. It’s important for her to feel seen and valued.
- Lead by Example: I try to model inclusive behavior by asking her opinions, involving her in group conversations, and showing others how easy it can be.
Step 7: Celebrate the Holiday Spirit
Despite the logistics, the heart of the holidays is about being together. By focusing on the joy and connection we share as a family, the challenges fade into the background.
Accessibility-Friendly Travel Checklist
- Have you communicated with your host about accessibility needs?
- Have you packed all necessary mobility aids, medications, and comfort items?
- Do you have a plan for small spaces or tricky obstacles?
- Are you prepared for unexpected challenges with an emergency kit?
- Are you staying flexible and avoiding overthinking to keep stress levels low?
Making the Holidays Bright
Traveling for the holidays with a loved one who has a disability can feel daunting, but it’s also an opportunity to create special memories. With thoughtful planning, open conversations, and a little ingenuity, you can make any space welcoming and inclusive.
The holidays are about more than perfect logistics—they’re about love, family, and the joy of being together.
What are your favorite tips for navigating holiday travel with accessibility in mind? Share them in the comments!
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